Due to Waqas's asking for months now I've finally got around and made some benchmarks on two string prepping libraries. The one being libidn, as far as I know most XMPP servers use this and the other being ICU by IBM.

While libidn is LGPL licensed with ICU you have nearly all freedom with the choice of license for your project, due to MIT license.

Current XMPP standard says that every JID must be string prepped so if you don't want to cache because of memory reasons your string prepping routines are called quite often. It turns out ICU is much faster than libidn. For this benchmark I tested a couple of strings and let them go through nameprep, resourceprep and nodeprep profiles via string prepping.